As most of you know, Mr. Handsome and I have three children. The age gap between our first and our second is two years and 11 months. We were originally going to have a two year age but ended up having two miscarriages.
At first, I was concerned that a larger age gap would mean that our children would not be as close, but our boys are best friends, and I no longer have this concern. A larger age gap between my first two kids also gave me extra time to gain confidence as a new parent before bringing another life into the world.
My second son and my daughter are two years and one month apart. This was definitely more challenging in the early days because my son was still so dependent on me when my daughter was born. But after the first six months, I started seeing their relationship blossom, and I love it. Littlest Buddy is such a sweet older brother and is always trying to give his sister hugs and take care of her. In turn, Little Lady looks out for him and doesn’t like to be separated from him, even for a short time. The pictures from the Florida trip we took to Santa Rosa Beach last fall show the sweet relationship between these two.
As a mom with three children, I am seeing evidence that God is orchestrating our family the way He sees fit, and there is so much beauty in that. Age gaps are not worth hyper-focusing on because there are so many other variables at play that we cannot control.
Two months ago, we miscarried a baby who would have been two and a half years younger than our daughter. Consequentially, if God gives us a fourth baby, there will be a larger age gap between those two than we had originally “intended.” At first, I found myself worrying that this baby will be “off on their own” and not able to be as close to my other children. But then I realized what silly thinking that is. God’s timing is better than my own.
Sorry to learn of the recent loss you suffered, sending you sympathy.
When we were newlyweds over 30 years ago we had agreed we’d like to have a maximum of three children. Due to infertility issues we were thankful the Lord blessed us with a daughter and son who are 2 yrs and 5 months apart in age. Since we were blessed with a daughter and a son and because I had two c-sections we decided not to have any more children. I was 32 and 34 when our kids were born and we were both 28 when we married. I have one sister who is 7 years older than me and my husband has one brother who is five years older than him. After my parents passed away in 2019 my sister and I did cleaning and I learned that my parents tried to adopt after my sister was born but didn’t get accepted because of my mother’s health. She had me at age 36 which was considered old for the 1960s. My sister and I are close now that we’re adults but she graduated from high school and college before I had finished high school. I know my parents felt blessed to have their daughters because they were also older when they married. However my parents lived until they were 91 and 98 and both of our kids had graduated from high school and college before they passed away.
There is 6 years between me and my oldest brother, and 3 years between me and my 2nd oldest brother. Im closer and always have been too my oldest brother, not that im not closer to my other one. Age gaps dont mean much, my two are 3 years 1 month and 11 days apart, right now they are in the fight about everything stage of siblings but they still have each other’s back when it comes to it
I have 2 children and they our 12 years apart. Not by our design, but God’s. Our older son helps his brother with school, takes him to baseball games and plays games with him. While one is now 23 and one is 12, it is still sweet to see their relationship. I cherish the fact God knows best!
I agree. God’s timing is always good. When my youngest who is 25 now was 10 months old I got pregnant and we were so excited but nervous about having another baby so close in age and while homeschooling. Sadly I miscarried and had another miscarriage after that one.
It was hard but God got us through it. I’m so sorry for the loss of all your babies.
I have 3 brothers 4 years apart from each other and they were close growing up! The second one I am 7 years older than and we hung out a lot in my early adulthood. Age gaps mean nothing! My closest age gap is my boys 17 months apart from each other and my largest is 27 months apart and i personally find it easier when they are 2+ years apart haha! And there’s no difference in how close they are in their relationship 😊